People don’t leave companies, they leave their managers. Or so the saying goes. And yet that is not always an option.
What makes it worse at times is that sometimes a peer gets that dream role that you wanted. Or someone more junior gets what you thought was rightfully your next move. or maybe you get a boss from another company whom you feel is not the right fit for the role.
Feeling disappointed, frustrated or even pure baffled are common responses to the situation.
But common as they might be, they are not super helpful. Fact is, a decision has been made and now you need to make things work.
Recently an executive coaching client of mine was faced with the same situation during a corporate re-org. And once we had done the work of processing the understandable feelings & a post-mortem on the range of reasons why the selection process may have played out the way it did, we then turned frustration to acceptance and asked
Here were some talking points I suggested he take up in the first meeting:
Establish a sense of genuine camaraderie to the extent possible. Helping someone new feel like the team has their back is a great way to open the door to a productive relationship.
Be open to any criticism that they may have about the current approach. A new person wants to add value quickly and in that vein they may end up being critical (sometimes overly) of the situation in front of them. Take it with a pinch of salt but pay attention to what they are noticing so that you understand their world view better.
Which of these questions do you think was most helpful and why ? And what other questions would you and to this? And just before you go…….
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